“We’re spending so much energy talking about how bad things are, it can start to feel like THAT’s our activism. Instead of just talking with our friends and family about what’s bad, let’s talk about what we can DO about this election.” That’s what the awesome friend-of-a-friend seasoned organizer said on this morning’s powerful small-group […]
Hi, white friends! Can I invite myself to your dinner table for a minute? You know, the one where you’re having the same conversation that my family’s been having since the debate last Thursday, at our little dinner table in the tiny cottage here on the Beach of My Heart. It’s the endless circling conversation […]
This morning, back on Beach of My Heart. I smiled at the memory of the driftwood log. Then blinked, and laughed out loud because I realized it was real. Time doubles back on itself in odd and beautiful patterns here. Always so much the same. New joys adding bright threads that somehow match perfectly with […]
Yesterday I got myself well and truly lost in an area with no cell service. It’s okay. That was more or less the point. I started the morning by exploring around Lake Placid, scouting locations to view the next day’s eclipse. Then I went a little further afield, checking out a couple of villages ten […]
Oh my friends, my heart is so full. It’s been a year since this post, about pushing my investment advisors to “humor me” by centering my portfolio on my values rather than pure profit. I had my first annual investment performance check-in today, and I learned two crucial things: I have no idea how much […]
Fifteen years with no Nurn in the world. That’s what we called him. A silly, loving name for a silly, loving man. Dan Kalikow, 3/2/43-2/26/09. But of course it’s not true that there’s no Nurn left. There is so much of him in me – I see him often in my own face – but […]
I’m not a lawyer, and this isn’t legal advice, BUT: daaaang y’all, this morning’s YW Boston webinar on “Navigating DEI Challenges: Legal Insights for Moving Forward in the Face of Resistance” was fricking FIIIIIIRE. Sharing my quick takeaways here because I’m involved with at least 3 organizations that need this info and I bet you […]
My lovely friends. Most of you look pretty much like me and share my lived experience as a white-identified woman. Dude friends, you’ve got one less intersection with me, but most of us still have the bond of shared whiteness, and that’s some powerful stuff nevertheless. Plus, we’ve mostly all got so much else in […]
Listen up. I just hit my limit. One too many articles and conversations about funders and companies who are turning away from their “commitments” to diversity, equity, and inclusion. Because it’s too controversial, or because it’s “not working.” It’s soapbox time. Just for a minute. Here goes: Yes, it’s appropriate to recognize the backlash. It’s […]
A couple of weeks back, something beautiful happened to me on Facebook. A long-ago “friend” who was really only an acquaintance through my very-ex-husband reached out privately. “I’ve been reading what you write over the last two years and your writing has been meaningful to me,” she messaged. “I’d like some help on how to […]