The scariest #metoo that ever happened to me… didn’t actually happen. Bit of a long story but hope you’ll bear with me because it’s about the male side of the equation in a couple of ways. Early in first semester freshman year, I got some bad scary news about my mom’s health and decided to deal with […]
No disrespect at all to #metoo, because, well, #metoo. But I was struck this morning by a #notme: driving along, noticed my headlight was out. Didn’t start worrying that I would get shot or deported if I got pulled over. So I kept speeding. At that moment, a CHP motorcycle zipped past me. And kept right on […]
A few years ago, I was in a touristy public park with my mom. A youngish guy with a bike was hanging around nearby. I felt his attention on me and I tried to do the dance of ignoring his interest while indicating polite awareness of his existence so he wouldn’t get angry – ladies, […]
via GIPHY Quarterly team retreat time! Or in this case, Trick-or-ReTreat time. With “eyeball pie” (quiche with olives), pumpkin bread, pumpkin soup, hand painting, pumpkin decorating, and a surprising amount of strategic planning.
I graduated from Harvard in 1993, so my 25th reunion is coming up in 2018. Harvard is weird in a lot of ways, including the fact that they collect autobiographical essays from everyone in your class every five years, print them up as a book, and mail them out just before reunion. Here’s what I […]
It’s not about the pronouns. Deeply surprised to find myself messing up again and again and again with someone who requested they/them. I mean, I’m a liberal! I’m polite! I have friends who transitioned FTM or MTF and I never deadname them! And yet I consistently find myself thinking, and saying, “Oh wait, I need […]
Reflecting on who I am, with this past weekend as my mirror. What is my work in this time? I am hated and distrusted. I am a coastal elite Harvard educated Jewish liberal feminist whose stock in trade is money for social causes. I am dedicated to kindness. My aspiration is: heart shining, unafraid. Taken […]
Thought experiment: do you believe in wind privilege? My favorite bike ride loops out 5 miles towards the coast and 5 miles back. Outbound, my experience is all about the wind. I curse how it holds me back and makes me fight for every inch. Then I hit the turn and as far as my […]
1. I drive way too fast. All the time. Usually 400+ miles per week. 2. I do not get pulled over. Ever. Only once, fifteen years ago, in my entire life. Police regularly cruise by me unconcerned as I push 80 on the highway. 3. Some people (me) are instantly seen as good law-abiding citizens. […]
I don’t like to brag, but it *was* pretty clever of me to be born healthy, straight, and gender-conforming to educated white financially stable parents in a safe suburb with excellent schools. It’s very comforting to know that other children who are experiencing harder lives should have started off by making the same smart choice.