No disrespect at all to #metoo, because, well, #metoo. But I was struck this morning by a #notme: driving along, noticed my headlight was out. Didn’t start worrying that I would get shot or deported if I got pulled over. So I kept speeding. At that moment, a CHP motorcycle zipped past me. And kept right on […]
A few years ago, I was in a touristy public park with my mom. A youngish guy with a bike was hanging around nearby. I felt his attention on me and I tried to do the dance of ignoring his interest while indicating polite awareness of his existence so he wouldn’t get angry – ladies, […]
via GIPHY Quarterly team retreat time! Or in this case, Trick-or-ReTreat time. With “eyeball pie” (quiche with olives), pumpkin bread, pumpkin soup, hand painting, pumpkin decorating, and a surprising amount of strategic planning.
I graduated from Harvard in 1993, so my 25th reunion is coming up in 2018. Harvard is weird in a lot of ways, including the fact that they collect autobiographical essays from everyone in your class every five years, print them up as a book, and mail them out just before reunion. Here’s what I […]
It’s not about the pronouns. Deeply surprised to find myself messing up again and again and again with someone who requested they/them. I mean, I’m a liberal! I’m polite! I have friends who transitioned FTM or MTF and I never deadname them! And yet I consistently find myself thinking, and saying, “Oh wait, I need […]
Reflecting on who I am, with this past weekend as my mirror. What is my work in this time? I am hated and distrusted. I am a coastal elite Harvard educated Jewish liberal feminist whose stock in trade is money for social causes. I am dedicated to kindness. My aspiration is: heart shining, unafraid. Taken […]
Thought experiment: do you believe in wind privilege? My favorite bike ride loops out 5 miles towards the coast and 5 miles back. Outbound, my experience is all about the wind. I curse how it holds me back and makes me fight for every inch. Then I hit the turn and as far as my […]
1. I drive way too fast. All the time. Usually 400+ miles per week. 2. I do not get pulled over. Ever. Only once, fifteen years ago, in my entire life. Police regularly cruise by me unconcerned as I push 80 on the highway. 3. Some people (me) are instantly seen as good law-abiding citizens. […]
I don’t like to brag, but it *was* pretty clever of me to be born healthy, straight, and gender-conforming to educated white financially stable parents in a safe suburb with excellent schools. It’s very comforting to know that other children who are experiencing harder lives should have started off by making the same smart choice.
Welcome to Camp MemComm! Summer Camp themed quarterly team retreat with my Membership & Communications team. Astroturf, s’mores, chocolate milk, pine branches and citronella candle on the table. Fish on the window as our lake view. Crackling campfire onscreen. Dollar store gift bags with jumprope, jacks, playdoh, glitter markers, and sunglasses for each of us. […]